What Kind of Parent Am I?

Posted by Lui on Jul 29th, 2008 | 9 comments home title

I had to give this some thought since I am not strictly a disciplinarian parent nor am I a very lenient one. I try to be a balance of both. Our daughter has just turned five and I had her when I was just 23. My mom and dad says that was a young age for having a baby but nonetheless I was really prepared for her and enjoyed every moment of my pregnancy , when I gave birth and till now. I have moments of frustrations too but all those things are eclipsed by the joy I am discovering in being a parent.

After I gave birth I went back to work and after 3 months I decided to quit work and take care of my child myself. Yes, I had a yaya (I had to, I hate doing laundry ) to help me out but I prefer giving my daughter a bath, prepare her food myself and sleeping with her beside me.

From the time she was born till she was two years old, it was just me because my husband was out of the country and till now I am so amazed at how I was able to cope with things. Things could get really stressful specially when kids get sick but I feel so lucky to have my parents and siblings to lend me a helping hand when I needed it.

I like doing things with my daughter, taking walks, blowing bubbles, drawing, story time, going to arcades and doing some home-schooling. We bond a lot but I am strict with TV hours,healthy food, table manners, her manners towards elders, and hygiene while my husband is very particular about learning and school stuff. When I get angry its rare that I have to raise my voice or give her a spanking, she “gets it” with just a look.

When it comes to discipline, my husband and I talk about it beforehand. I think its a must that we complement each other and impose understandable and not conflicting rules. She’s now beginning to understand rules particularly if it has been explained well.

Were are not sure if our parenting style is the right or wrong way but we hope and pray our daughter would turn out well. For new parents like us, advices from our parents, insights from friends have helped us a lot along the way.

This is my first time to join the Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival. The sixth edition is hosted by Guardian Angel.

I’m just sorry it took me awhile to join this but I’d like to commend Doc Joey for coming up with this thought-provoking meme.

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9 Responses home title

bingskee says:

July 29, 2008 at 1:23 pm

it would truly help that both parents know where to stand about discipline. that’s a very good approach not to confuse your child.

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Angel Cuala says:

July 29, 2008 at 2:59 pm

Your entry is just on time and being an interesting one, it deserves an applause from me. Talking with your husband on how to discipline your child is very admirable.

I think all parents should do that so the child will not be confused.

Thanks for joining.

Angel Cuala
aka Guardian Angel

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grace says:

July 31, 2008 at 5:20 am

A good timing, that was an issue to me before. you see, both me and my husband have different perspective on discipline, but we manage to get over by simply compromising and mixing what i believe and he believes. we actually created a beeter formula for parenting. thanks to your post, that assures me that i’m not the only one thinking about it.

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edelweiza says:

July 31, 2008 at 9:36 am

all i can say is, it’s really hard to be a parent.i’m not one yet, though. i’ve seen how my parents tried to raise me and my siblings well. my mom keeps telling me that no matter how hard it is to become a parent, it’s the noblest and the most fulfilling profession of all.

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pinayws says:

July 31, 2008 at 11:37 am

hi grace, i’ve discovered that kids are really good at finding “palusot” and would really test your rules.. we learned it the hard way since I gave her a rule then I had no idea my husband told her another thing..the kid was really confused and asked why daddy and mommy are saying different things.

parents would like to come across as believable but since we both have different values so we might have different outlooks so its really best to talk with our partners about the best course or discipline.
pinayws says:

July 31, 2008 at 11:40 am

hi edel, you’re right parenting is a really tough job but whenever I look at my kid achieve little things I find it amazing and no matter how tired or frustrated I am, I feel so happy and blessed.

You’re parents are right and ever since I became a mom, I value my parents more and their advices are really priceless for me.
Bobby says:

August 1, 2008 at 8:51 am

I’m a father to my 3 year old daughter..I was not there when my wife gave birth to her and somehow spend less time with her as she grows and develops from an infant to a lovely girl. I’m too busy with my job that I missed those days being with my daughter. Every time I’m with her, I still can’t believe that I’m a already a father and here is my daughter calling me daddy (never fails to give joy in my heart and tears in my eyes)

For all working dads who deserved to be hugged by their kids

Bobby
HotMomma says:

August 2, 2008 at 10:22 am

Hi! this is a nice piece. It’s obvious that you are a very hands-on mom. Considering that your hubby is away makes you all the more admirable because we all know raising kids without a partner is quite daunting.

By the way, thanks a lot for allowing me to advertise in your blog. You gave me the most number of clicks from the ad I placed here.

Again, thanks!

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Angel Cuala says:

August 8, 2008 at 6:10 am

Hi,

The summary has been posted last Aug 3. Sorry for the delayed information because I am having problems with my connection these past few days.

Thanks again for joining.

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